Unsingled: After the break-up....Choosing Sides

Saturday, September 15, 2012

After the break-up....Choosing Sides

B. Hasan had a very interesting post today...It read: So, during my marriage, mutual friends were made. Now that my ex husband has remarried, our mutual friends won't invite me to events that my ex and his wife will be at. I feel betrayed and hurt. It's not like I can't be civil around them even though I hate him tremendously. Should I kick these so-called friends to the curb or be understanding? The responses were so mixed on this...

D. Roussell stated...they have proven their loyalty. Not your friends. You don't need people in your life who aren't going to be there through thick and thin. GOOD POINT!

K. Morris agreed, saying that they weren't/aren't your friends. It shouldn't matter that he has a new wife. If the friendship was genuine, it wouldn't matter who was there.

G. Young said that they probably want to avoid any conflict or drama. You can't straddle the fence in some situations, sometimes you have to pick a side and this seems to be one of those times. Hmmmm.

M. Vincent's assessment was...If they were his friends before you guys got together, then their loyalty should be with him. If they were your friends first, their loyalty should lie with you.But if you met these friends while you guys were together, it's obvious who they are loyal to. Personally, I wouldn't want to be around my ex and his new wife...I would get some new friends. YEP...SOUNDS GOOD TO ME.

What is your take on this. This issue is more common than you may think.

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