Unsingled: Should I continue?

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Should I continue?

Another post today that captured our attention was written by Single Friend-K.A. It goes as follows:

Can I pour my heart out....I like this woman and she knows this...my fear is that it won't work because we have decades invested in friendship, and the ice cream on the cake is...she likes one of my good, if not best friends. (Classic love story huh?) She knows he's all wrong for her but she's a grown woman! Plus, I'm in no position to be what she needs, wants, and desires...need your opinion on this matter...GO HARD!!!

First of all, I am so happy that he said Go Hard, 'cause that's how I am about to go.
First, I am going to dissect this letter from the end, then I may not even need to take it to the beginning.....Why in the hell would you even try to pursue someone who is not only your good friend of years...not only your boy's girl...but someone that you have not even tried to get yourself together for after all of this time and at least make yourself someone that she could at least see herself with? You stated that YOU ARE NOT IN A POSITION TO GIVE HER ANYTHING!!! After years of friendship, you should know what she needs and desire, yet you have done nothing to try to move closer to that goal to become better able to even approach her about anything more than what you two already have? Why would she even consider taking a chance on you and blowing the friendship when as you stated yourself...you have nothing to offer?? And why would you not only jeopardize the friendship that you have with her, but also the friendship that you have with your "Boy"? One of your best friends at that? I could have been more sympathetic had you said...I am what she needs...etc...but you admitted that you can't do a thing for her.... Anyway, here are some of the other responses to K.A.'s question...I'm Done!!

Kyna S. said- This will not work. If she wanted you like that, you would know it. She doesn't look at you in that way. Be glad you aren't one of the ex's and enjoy the friendship.

All is fair in love and war, so go far what you know and accept or bask in the the consequences. You start the game at 0, so no losses. -B.H.

The G-Code is in play. Don't "Hit" your boy's girl, even if you "think" you have special feelings for one another. It's a no-win situation and you will regret it later. -Darryl P.

Take this time out to get yourself together so you can be what someone else wants and needs and don't even have this ludicrous conversation with her. - D. Miller

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About Unsingled

Divorced over a decade from a national Rap artist, my greatest fear was to embark on yet another ten years as a single person. Who would have ever guessed that finding "The Right One" could be so difficult.

Not at all unlike many others, after finding no luck in meeting someone the more traditional way, I have resorted to Online Dating Sites in search of my mate. It was then that I realized that these particular sites are designed to set you up for failure. Mates are exclusively chosen by physical attraction, coupled up with a few other attributes, such as height, profession and hobbies. And because options are so vast on these sites, people lose focus on what they are really there for, and tend to date multiple people at the same time.

My site, "Unsingled" is everything those sites are not. You are able to get to know each member as a friend first, before making a quick decision to date. Often times, someone that you were initially attracted to, based on looks, turn out to be a huge turn-off based on their morals and opinions. On the other hand, someone that may not have initially caught your eye, after spending some time communicating with and getting to know one another, could potentially turn out to be exactly what you were looking for.

"Unsingled" is the only dating site that is as unique as it's name. You Truly get to know your potential mate through adult conversations, daily topics, and overall communication; eventually ensuring that being single will be a thing of the past and every member will eventually be "Unsingled."