Unsingled: Expectations

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Expectations

One of our singles, Baheejah H. went on a date last week in which she had to pick him up (no, he was not a fellow group member) and apparently he did not even offer to buy gas or be gentlemanly because she ended the date within 20 minutes and posted the following.....When newly dating someone, do you impose your expectations, such as opening a door, pumping the gas, or picking up the check; or do you just go with the flow and make mental notes? Most members felt that she should not have ended the date so prematurely and that gas should already be in your vehicle, but the following members thought this...

James R.- I think that people are too quick to judge folks based on their expectations and assume that anyone who doesn't live up to it is a no-good trifling POS. (What's that?)
Jermaine W. asked, "Why are expectations so great for a new friend but you are willing to accept all kinds of foolishness from an old flame?" Of course everyone disputed that, but they lying! Lol
Cherri F- Mental note...you want to know who they are and if you make small suggestions, most men assume that you want to change them.
Marie M.- Mental notes- Want him to be a real gentleman, not the gentleman....until he gets her.

Ok, so no one thinks that you should put your expectations all out on the table, but what happens when you turn the car around after 20 minutes? won't they be stuck wondering what happened?

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Divorced over a decade from a national Rap artist, my greatest fear was to embark on yet another ten years as a single person. Who would have ever guessed that finding "The Right One" could be so difficult.

Not at all unlike many others, after finding no luck in meeting someone the more traditional way, I have resorted to Online Dating Sites in search of my mate. It was then that I realized that these particular sites are designed to set you up for failure. Mates are exclusively chosen by physical attraction, coupled up with a few other attributes, such as height, profession and hobbies. And because options are so vast on these sites, people lose focus on what they are really there for, and tend to date multiple people at the same time.

My site, "Unsingled" is everything those sites are not. You are able to get to know each member as a friend first, before making a quick decision to date. Often times, someone that you were initially attracted to, based on looks, turn out to be a huge turn-off based on their morals and opinions. On the other hand, someone that may not have initially caught your eye, after spending some time communicating with and getting to know one another, could potentially turn out to be exactly what you were looking for.

"Unsingled" is the only dating site that is as unique as it's name. You Truly get to know your potential mate through adult conversations, daily topics, and overall communication; eventually ensuring that being single will be a thing of the past and every member will eventually be "Unsingled."