Unsingled: Is runner-up a bad thing?

Monday, November 5, 2012

Is runner-up a bad thing?

Everyone wants to be with the man or woman of their dreams, but reality is that most people do not end up with that person. Should you wait on that person even if they are not yet ready for that role, with hopes that they will come around or do you embrace your second choice, someone that you may not like as much as your number 1, but there is no doubt that you are their #1?

This topic created quite the debate. With over 50 comments, I will touch on just a few. Gina G. Seemed to be quite passionate about the topic. Her overall view was that Settling on #2 is doing both parties a disservice and while most relationships may not be 50/50, if you enter it at anything less than that, you are doomed from the beginning. She overall thinks that people should not settle for their mate, they should wait to be with the person of their dreams.
Shedwrick R. thinks that if someone adores YOU, then you should give them a shot. You may have a shot at being happy, he thinks. Hmmmm...you think?
Fred G. said something that sounds good but I don't know if it is that realistic. He said that he was told that if you wanted to be happy, love the person that loves you.
I'm sure that works for some, but I know that it doesn't work for all.
Kenneth E. agreed with Fred and of course had more to add when Fred went on to say, who cares if I was your 1st, or 3rd choice. Someone is always more vested than the other person. The only thing that matters is that you are with me now. Wow!! Become a part of the group Single Friends to read the rest of Kenneth's response.
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About Unsingled

Divorced over a decade from a national Rap artist, my greatest fear was to embark on yet another ten years as a single person. Who would have ever guessed that finding "The Right One" could be so difficult.

Not at all unlike many others, after finding no luck in meeting someone the more traditional way, I have resorted to Online Dating Sites in search of my mate. It was then that I realized that these particular sites are designed to set you up for failure. Mates are exclusively chosen by physical attraction, coupled up with a few other attributes, such as height, profession and hobbies. And because options are so vast on these sites, people lose focus on what they are really there for, and tend to date multiple people at the same time.

My site, "Unsingled" is everything those sites are not. You are able to get to know each member as a friend first, before making a quick decision to date. Often times, someone that you were initially attracted to, based on looks, turn out to be a huge turn-off based on their morals and opinions. On the other hand, someone that may not have initially caught your eye, after spending some time communicating with and getting to know one another, could potentially turn out to be exactly what you were looking for.

"Unsingled" is the only dating site that is as unique as it's name. You Truly get to know your potential mate through adult conversations, daily topics, and overall communication; eventually ensuring that being single will be a thing of the past and every member will eventually be "Unsingled."